The #bossbabe mindset.

For the first year of my daughters life, it seemed like every aspect of my life was unmanageable. I couldn’t maintain employment, my health was declining, I couldn’t be present with her, and it felt like I was falling apart. I continued to try and juggle my job, housework, relationships, appointments, etc. and I burned out so quick. I remember being 5 months postpartum, struggling with PPD, and I thought, “I can’t continue going on like this.” I found myself at the middle of the road again, grasping for a solution.

We see women in the media and out in the real world who make this all look easy. These women are what I like to call “Girl Bosses”. They’re your moms who never miss a soccer game, run their own company, and drive a Tesla. Or maybe they attend yoga regularly, always cook dinner for their family, and just got promoted to CEO.

For me, the girl boss lifestyle is unrealistic. I sat there at 5 months postpartum, hadn’t showered in a few days, and just lost my job. It is safe to say I wasn’t feeling like a “boss babe”; and that’s OKAY. I have realized that this girl boss lifestyle is not only unattainable for me, but it is also quite unnecessary. I now understand that I will always struggle in some aspect of my life. If I’m doing great at work, I’m probably not spending as much time with my family. If I’m eating right and exercising, I’m probably not keeping my house too clean. Again, that’s OKAY. All we have to do is wake up everyday and make the best of the day we can. We talk about “time management” and those silly lifestyle pie charts, but the reality is, balance may never happen. It may constantly fluctuate, and that’s why we have our entire lives to work at it. If I didn’t spend much time with my family today, I get another 24 hours tomorrow.

I believe that the girl boss mentality plays heavily into our mom guilt. I encourage you to prioritize your life, stay organized, but also know that you don’t have to keep juggling. Put a few things down for today, and maybe you can pick them up tomorrow. At the end of it all, nothing is more "boss babe" than bringing a life into this world, and you’re a great mom.